My baby just keeps crying, how can I calm him down?

During the first weeks of life, crying is a baby’s only form of communication. But how to identify his tears and calm them? We take stock.

From birth, babies can cry a lot, on average between 2 and 3 hours a day. Whether it’s discharge crying, hunger, a cold, or simply a sign of discomfort, a baby’s crying is often unpleasant for parents, it can be disarming, even guilt-inducing. But rest assured, it’s completely normal for your newborn to cry. In fact, until he learns to speak, crying is your baby’s only way to communicate. clear, a crying baby is a talking baby!

Although all babies have periods when they cry, remember that every child is different. Many studies agree with that in the first three months of life babies cry the loudest and this cry is the most intense. Parents may not be able to calm their crying baby, even by feeding him, making sure his diaper is clean, or holding him. These tears are normal, you have nothing to do with it. The main thing is that your child feels the comforting presence of his parents.

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How to identify my baby’s cry?

After extensive research, some scientists believe that babies emit different cries to express hunger, boredom, discomfort, colic, discharge at the end of the day, pain, etc. However, this view is not unanimous among experts. In fact, more and more professionals believe that listening to crying above all makes it possible to measure the level of stress of a baby instead of determining their exact cause. According to them, the louder the sound or intensity of the child’s crying, the greater the anxiety of the baby. Parents can also often predict their baby’s needs by the sound of crying.

The causes of your baby’s crying can be varied, such as:

  • hunger;
  • fatigue;
  • discomfort (related to heat, wet diapers, belching that is difficult to expel, etc.);
  • the need to be close to parents;
  • the need to vent one’s feelings;
  • the need for stimulation;
  • pain

Of course, babies can also cry during health problems (fever, nasal congestion, skin lesions, etc.) or when teething.

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How to silence a crying baby?

To easily soothe your baby’s cries, here are some expert tips:

  • Start with talk to your child in a soft, calm voice. This voice, like some sounds (white noise) or some melodies heard before, is reassuring and soothing for him.
  • Take your baby in your arms and hug him gently. Babies love to be held, human contact allows them to relax, calm down, reduce their stress levels and feel safe. You can too put your baby in a baby carrier or adjustable sling, it allows your baby to stay connected to you while leaving your hands free. Some studies report a significant decrease in crying in babies who are carried daily. This may allow him to fall asleep more easily.
  • A baby tummy massage can provide comfort and is completely safe. You can also put your newborn on his back, put his feet in each of your hands and pedal him by slowly bending his legs towards his stomach one after the other like cycling This method relieves colic and colic in children.
  • To help your child calm down, give him a peaceful environment : turn off or dim the lights, reduce ambient sounds and avoid loud noises. Also avoid moving your baby too much. You can encourage him, while he may express his need to rest. You can gently place him in his bed and stay close to him while talking to him and see if he can calm himself down.
  • If you are breastfeeding your baby, you can breastfeed. Indeed, many babies calm down when they nurse at their mother’s breast.
  • skin to skin can also be radical against the baby’s crying, especially in the first day. To do this, remove your baby’s clothes so that only his diaper is on him and take off your sweater. Then take your baby in your arms to your chest and cover his back with a soft blanket so he doesn’t get cold. Skin-to-skin has a relaxing effect on babies, allowing them to fall asleep more easily. The warmth and movement provided by the parent’s skin-to-skin contact can also provide relief from discomfort.
  • You can too lay your baby face down in your arms by placing her head toward your elbow and holding her bottom with your hand. Take a few steps around the room, rocking him gently and massaging his lower back if possible. This solution is regularly used in case of stomach ache in baby.
  • Swaddling can also be a solution to your baby’s crying. It consists of wrapping a baby in a blanket to limit his movements. The feeling of being wrapped reminded him of life in his mother’s womb and the baby was so happy.

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Solutions to soothe crying babies are many and specific to each child. When you become a parent, a baby’s crying can be very difficult to bear, especially if it is frequent. The exhaustion of the parents can sometimes lead to some very sudden actions that represent a danger for the child. If you feel tired, exhausted, angry, or have negative thoughts about your baby: Don’t hesitate to ask for help, talk to a relative or someone you trust to take over, contact a doctor or any health professional (if necessary call 15).


Since May 2021, Pauline has joined the Aufeminin team. A journalism student, Pauline is currently in a work-study program and writes for the Aufeminin and Parole de Mamans websites. Curious and passionate, she…

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